One of the things I've wanted to explore before having another baby is cloth diapers. I've spoken with my friends that use them and they seem to love them, but I don't know much about them other than there have liners, cute covers and you do more laundry! A new friend and adoptive parent recommended Mud Butt Cloth Diapers to me. I was excited to see that the company was in our neighboring town and the owner has adopted two children through LSS! I sent her an email explaining that we are on the LSS waiting list and she told me that she would be happy to get together so she can show me how they work, and to let me see them firsthand. We set up a time to meet next week.
I started thinking that I was getting the cart before the horse. We don't even have a match yet--not even anyone looking at our profile. It's only been 4 weeks, I didn't expect a whirlwind adoption once we entered the book (although that would have been fun!). So then the negative talk came in. "What am I doing? We aren't even matched. We might not ever be chosen. I shouldn't be looking at diapers and assuming that we'll get to have another child." And, well, is just gets ugly from there. It's true, we might not get chosen. At some point we might have to decide that we are done trying and it's over. The thought of it makes me so sad.
I worked out with a good friend one morning this week and mentioned my struggle to her. She encouraged me to act as I would as an expecting mother. It was good advice for me. I don't know how long this "pregnancy" will be, but I have to keep my hope alive. I feel like most of the time I speak positively about the adoption process, I use "when" instead of "if" frequently, but some days it's hard.
I need to look at it this way--if we never get to have more children, I will be devastated regardless of if I enjoy this waiting period or dread it. So, I might as well enjoy my time. I can live my life anticipating disappointment, or I can live it anticipating joy. I need to choose anticipating joy. It's a whole lot more fun to imagine holding a baby in our arms than it is to imagine having to let go of our dream.
So, right now I'll play the role of an expecting mother and learn more about cloth diapers next week. It's hard to stay positive, thank goodness for the encouragement of good friends and family.