I know someone that had family photos taken, and a few days later one of the family members was killed. Those photos are cherished now, and send a reminder to me to capture moments in time whenever I can. (Yep, that's why I have a camera glued to my face!)
However, there was a time that taking family photos was hard for me. I remember my good friend and photographer Mandi from amanda rae photography (by the way look at the cutie on the far left of her website) came to take our photos. She got done and I bawled. Bawled because there were 3 of us in the photo and there should have been 4. And, I don't mean "should have been" like I wish there would have been, I mean "should have been" as in we had a miscarriage and the baby that would have been born wasn't there. I felt like someone was missing.
I can look back at family photos and tag them with something...."that one was taken the day before I found out I was pregnant, only to miscarry 3 weeks later"....."that one was taken just as we started IVF....the IVF that ended in an early miscarriage".
Yesterday we visited an old friend and checked out his new, amazing photography studio. He took our photos. The three of us. And, he took some of Jamie and me. Just the two of us, stronger than before. The photos Judd took will be our "those were taken as we waited for our adoption" photos. And, for the first time in a long time, they won't be photos of what was missing, but what will be. They aren't photos of me feeling empty, with no life growing in me. They will be photos of us, a family, a team, the three of us that have so much to look forward to.
After we got done with photos, Jamie, Griffin and Judd were singing and playing the guitar (yes, Judd has the loft set up for a band!) and another photographer walked in. His sister and brother-in-law followed. She had a big swollen belly, I figured she was coming in for maternity photos.
You know what? I wasn't jealous. I didn't think about how she "wrecked" my day. I didn't even think, "She's so lucky, I hope she realizes it". I thought she was coming in to take photos of her belly, that's it. I sat there in my dress and heels and reflected on that....I was happy where I am. I feel healthy and fit again. I don't feel empty. My empty feelings have changed to a fullness of hope.....full of a growing baby that isn't growing physically in me, but is mentally. I don't understand why we've been brought on this road, but it's our road and we're making the absolute best of it.
By the way, the woman was coming in to have her 1 week old baby's photos taken. He was adorable. We talked about babies. We told her we applied for adoption. It's so fun to share our news....kinda like being pregnant, but different. It's like opening up that we've struggled, but we aren't giving up.
And, someday, I'll be the woman with the one week old baby getting his/her photos taken. I have a feeling I'll be crying the whole time, crying happy tears.